laylabunny wrote:
I would like to see the breeder forum remain open to all, and not let a few ridiculous people ruin for everyone else.
I probably fall under the category of the breeder that continues to discuss it after the subject was supposed to be dropped...
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But I want people to understand why I do what I do. Of course, there is no talking to people that just flip out and bash others because of a difference of opinion. Someone with that strong of a view on a touchy subject isn't going to listen to reason, no matter how practical the argument. While I won't apologize for being a responsible breeder and managing what I produce, I will defend your right to disagree with me. The mods have a heck of a tough job and I appreciate them stepping in to keep the peace.
First of all - let me say that Art's been gone most of the week and I've been struggling with depression from missing him - plus trying to keep a couple of sick babies alive (one of which died today).
Secondly - its HOT here. Our central a/c hasn't worked in years and we use window a/cs....but it is still very hot. It has gotten so hot lately that my computer is giving me fits and takes forever sometimes to do stuff.
I say this to explain that when things are going well in the rabbitry - it doesn't cause me any problems. I can check the threads in a few minutes and be done with it.
But when we have folks come in and bash breeders for their choices and I have to start editing them - plus edit the responses to them....then I wind up sitting in a room that is almost 90 degrees - at a hot computer which doesn't want to work - and what is normally "fun" becomes work.
In addition - when I ask folks to please change the subject and they keep on going because they "want to be heard" - it makes me feel like my efforts are not respected - and I almost came to a place of stepping down from moderating this week because I was so hurt by the fact that others wouldn't just "let it go".
It is those two things that make moderating here "hard" for me (along with the heat) - the folks who come in and criticize breeders - and then having to deal with the breeders themselves who keep on going and going because they want to be heard (and I'm only quoting you because mentioned the two points I'm trying to make - my comments are NOT directed at you personally - I promise!)
At times this week I just wanted to go to Pipp and say "shut the rabbitry down period...".
This is how I feel when those types of threads get started and keep going (and I start getting pms about them)...
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and finally
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Perhaps the solution will be to find another moderator who has more time/energy to devote to this area and I step down because my expectations of behavior are wrong.....I don't know. I know that all of our mods are busy with "real lives" while I try to check the forum 3-4 times per day.
I'm open to hearing more suggestions and I'll be glad to discuss this with Pipp, etc. privately. If y'all feel I should step down - please feel free to tell me or Pipp....I want to see what is best for the forum.
In the meantime - I'm gonna go hug a bunny, grieve another bunny (we lost our little broken tort holland lop buck) - and try to get cool in another room.