February 5, 2010 - An Impressive Day
To everyone and anyone reading this - this is the happiest day I have had in a while! Last week, I asked one of the volunteers are our rescue if she could help me bond my buns. She has had lots of experience with rabbits and lots of experience bonding them, so I thought she would be able to guage for me whether there is hope for Kirby and Toby, or if I should just give it up and keep them separate forever (sigh).
I had described to her the behavior of these two and how Toby likes to chase and pull fur while Kirby is terrified and runs away... the whole lot of my woes about my babies, basically. She was telling me that from what I was saying, it doesn't sound too promising, which is as much as I assumed as well.
She did an introduction session with my bunnies, and can I just say, it was absolutely the most amazing thing I've ever seen. First of all, Kirby came hopping over to Toby, not the other way around. Kirby then started to get too excited, then scared, and got Toby all worked up all in a matter of about 5 to 8 seconds on the ground. She actually went for Kirby, and settled him down. She petted him, stroked his ears, calmed him down... and in fact, Toby was just strolling around, investigating & sniffing Kirby. No growling, no fur pulling. Not even touching Kirby. And he had every chance to.
She kept stroking Kirby to keep him calm, and he remained very calm. No buggy eyes, no super fast breathing... he seemed relatively relaxed. That alone had me floored! But Toby then kinda stood there a few inches away from Kirby and she started to Toby with her other hand. Toby sat still for petting too. She kinda held their ears, gently petting and stroking the ears and the backs of their necks. Both buns were really quite well behaved. I was shocked beyond belief watching this.
Then she actually nudged Toby over to sit next to Kirby. Their bodies were right next to each other, touching. She was able to pet them both on the head in one stroke of her hand - their heads were THAT close. It was all very tolerable by both buns. Minimal negative energy happening. It lasted maybe about 5 minutes. Kirby then got up and walked away. Toby continued to sit, not minding that Kirby up and left. And that was the end of it.
I have never seen my buns this close together. I have never seen them NOT be upset with each other. I have never seen Toby that close to Kirby in his free will and NOT take a bite of fur. It. Was. Crazy. I'm still in disbelief that this happened.
I am pleasantly surprised needless to say, but she was surprised too based upon what I was telling her about their behavior as pen-neighbors. Her opinion is based on this session that it is not hopeless. If I want to, I should keep trying in t his manner. She advised, and I agree now, that controlling Kirby's anxiety is the key to setting a calm tone for the sessions. Previously, it was like when he freaks out, Toby gets upset and then Kirby runs away and Toby gives chase - one bad reaction leading to another. I think I will go with that and really keep the sessions down to about 2 minutes or so each. I am not entirely confident that I will have as much control over the situation as she did, so I should keep the sessions down to a minimum so that everybun won't really have enough time to get ticked with each other.
I am really excited! This was more than I ever imagined. I was fully expecting her to see the boys in all their crazy glory and tell me to just give up (lol). Seeing them side-by-side, laying down, all relaxed, gave me hope that I can do this. they might be able to bond. I'm so happy!
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