My bunny doesn't really like to be held either. He has been handled since he was born, and I pick him up at least once a day. I have to because the way his cage is set up it is too high up for him to jump out on his own. I have to pick him up to take him out of his cage and put him back again. He does the same thing, he will kick and it frightens me because I dont' want him to hurt himself. One thing that I have found that helps a bit is, scoop him up one hand under his butt/hind legs, the other under his front legs and hold him firmly but not too firmly to your chest. I stroke my bun's head and talk softly to him and it seems to help a bit but he can only tolerate it for about a minute. Also, you can try scooping him up, holding him close, then wrapping a baby blanket/towel around him. Think of swaddling a baby. That seemed to really help him be calm and I was able to hold him as long as i've ever been able to with that method. He doesn't have to be completely wrapped in the blanket, just while he's scooped up with him facing you, wrap it around his back. I think it must've made him feel more secure. I think my bun is coming around because he seems less anxious every day. I think he trusts me and loves me, but it's an overwhelming instinct for him that when he's picked up it means DANGER! Love me or not, trust me or not, he can't fight that innate trigger and it takes a lot of time and patience. Just be careful when bun flails about. They can really hurt themselves that way, and scratch you to pieces in the process. Good luck!