GoinBackToCali
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As many of you all know, I did help raise my stepdaughter. Her mother died when she was 4. She is now 22.
When she 20 she got pregnant with her boyfriends child. We all hated Keith, he was a lay about, no good for nothin, couldn't keep a job, and was always full of excuses. When Tristan was around a month old, Keith and Chandra had a knockdown dragout that I ended up breaking up..they split up after that and child support was arranged through the state. She went back to school and continued to work.
After my grandson Tristan was born, I had to pony up money for meds, diapers, formula and the like, because Chandra was either still on maternity leave, or her WIC hadn't kicked in yet.
Before she ever even got pregnant, we offerred her $5K to put down on a brand new car. Well she informed us that despite the fact she could was still living at home and had no bills, she was not interested in paying full covergae insurance, so we either had to pay for everything or she didn't want it. So she bought a P of S Saturn that I have had to put 2 sets of tires on, have various repairs done to, not to mention put gas in.
ANYWAY, we saw her Christmas, and we saw her Easter, at Easter she wore this very strange Chanel knockoff boucle jacket, all buttoned up, over a shirt that didn't match the jacket. Really did not think too much about. When she calls, she usually only calls when she wants something, so when I answer, well the last 2 times anyway, I have been very matter of fact and to the point, not in the mood for her beating around the bush niceness untill she gets to the point where she tells me what she wants.
At one point, after Jarred died, and I told her why Blake and I would not be attending Tristans birthday party, because it was the same day as Jarred's service. (Christian ended up going with Rick's mom, and we just sent our gifts along with them, and Rick, me and Blake went to the service) Chandra told us that she was sick of it, the she was born BEFORE Blake and Christian, SHE should come first, and we need to stop putting out money on those stupid pigs, and cattle and rabbits and start contributing more to her needs... yeah.. I ended up tellin her how the cow ate the cabbage..
Then we were told she was pregnant, months later we were told she had a misscarriage.
So this past Friday night,Rick and I went to Wal-Mart with Stormy, Blake's girlfriend. Me and Stormy walked up on Rick and he had this look of absolute anger, he pulled me aside, he said he ran into Chandra, and she looked as big as a house, and that if shes pregnant AND hiding it.. that's it for her . He also informed me that Chandra literally ran from him.
So we walk around Wal-Mart looking for her.. can't find her.. so I call her grandmother.. basically she hasnt even admitted it to her grandmother either, she only knows cause she snooped through her papers.. shes having a baby boy due June 18th.. with KEITH.
So I called her and left messages.. no reply.. I used a PI friend of mine and tracked her down to her new apartment, which Keith's car was there... and left notes on both cars. No response.
We are told she is scared of her Daddy.. for what? he has never hit her, or degraded her, whats he going to do? ground her? take away her birthday? I can kinda understand why she isnt talking to me, I was pretty p*ssy when she told me she was more important than my kids with her father. Why she isn't telling her grandmother is beyond me either..
What does she think she is gonna do? send us a graduation announcement for this kid and keep him hidden for the next 18 years? show up at Christmas and say * look what followwed me home, isnt he cute, I think im gonna keep him.*
A friend suggested perhaps she is going to give the baby up for adoption hence why she is keeping it a secret. Well that's been blown out of the water since I noticed the storage building was gone thru while we were gone, and the crib, and strollers and bassinet and bags of newborn clothes are gone now.
So, I ask ya'll, because obviously my judgement is not clear.. what the HECK is going on in her brain?
When she 20 she got pregnant with her boyfriends child. We all hated Keith, he was a lay about, no good for nothin, couldn't keep a job, and was always full of excuses. When Tristan was around a month old, Keith and Chandra had a knockdown dragout that I ended up breaking up..they split up after that and child support was arranged through the state. She went back to school and continued to work.
After my grandson Tristan was born, I had to pony up money for meds, diapers, formula and the like, because Chandra was either still on maternity leave, or her WIC hadn't kicked in yet.
Before she ever even got pregnant, we offerred her $5K to put down on a brand new car. Well she informed us that despite the fact she could was still living at home and had no bills, she was not interested in paying full covergae insurance, so we either had to pay for everything or she didn't want it. So she bought a P of S Saturn that I have had to put 2 sets of tires on, have various repairs done to, not to mention put gas in.
ANYWAY, we saw her Christmas, and we saw her Easter, at Easter she wore this very strange Chanel knockoff boucle jacket, all buttoned up, over a shirt that didn't match the jacket. Really did not think too much about. When she calls, she usually only calls when she wants something, so when I answer, well the last 2 times anyway, I have been very matter of fact and to the point, not in the mood for her beating around the bush niceness untill she gets to the point where she tells me what she wants.
At one point, after Jarred died, and I told her why Blake and I would not be attending Tristans birthday party, because it was the same day as Jarred's service. (Christian ended up going with Rick's mom, and we just sent our gifts along with them, and Rick, me and Blake went to the service) Chandra told us that she was sick of it, the she was born BEFORE Blake and Christian, SHE should come first, and we need to stop putting out money on those stupid pigs, and cattle and rabbits and start contributing more to her needs... yeah.. I ended up tellin her how the cow ate the cabbage..
Then we were told she was pregnant, months later we were told she had a misscarriage.
So this past Friday night,Rick and I went to Wal-Mart with Stormy, Blake's girlfriend. Me and Stormy walked up on Rick and he had this look of absolute anger, he pulled me aside, he said he ran into Chandra, and she looked as big as a house, and that if shes pregnant AND hiding it.. that's it for her . He also informed me that Chandra literally ran from him.
So we walk around Wal-Mart looking for her.. can't find her.. so I call her grandmother.. basically she hasnt even admitted it to her grandmother either, she only knows cause she snooped through her papers.. shes having a baby boy due June 18th.. with KEITH.
So I called her and left messages.. no reply.. I used a PI friend of mine and tracked her down to her new apartment, which Keith's car was there... and left notes on both cars. No response.
We are told she is scared of her Daddy.. for what? he has never hit her, or degraded her, whats he going to do? ground her? take away her birthday? I can kinda understand why she isnt talking to me, I was pretty p*ssy when she told me she was more important than my kids with her father. Why she isn't telling her grandmother is beyond me either..
What does she think she is gonna do? send us a graduation announcement for this kid and keep him hidden for the next 18 years? show up at Christmas and say * look what followwed me home, isnt he cute, I think im gonna keep him.*
A friend suggested perhaps she is going to give the baby up for adoption hence why she is keeping it a secret. Well that's been blown out of the water since I noticed the storage building was gone thru while we were gone, and the crib, and strollers and bassinet and bags of newborn clothes are gone now.
So, I ask ya'll, because obviously my judgement is not clear.. what the HECK is going on in her brain?
