Hello carrot and welcome to the forum. You canread over the resources section and get all the data you need to makean informed decision but I would like to share a personal experiencewith you.
I am an experience animal owner and have had all myanimals spayed, not really noticing a difference but buns are a totallydifferent animal. I got Delilah fully informed that rabbits don't liketo be picked up or carried. I was ready to love her on her level, butwhen I first met her she seemed perfectly happy in my arms so I waspleasantly surprised. As time went on the true bun came out.. hershyness about a new environment seemed to allow her to tell us exactlywhat she did not like. What I never could find out was what she didlike. She was like living with a distant roomate. I offered loveaffection via petting, or not petting, never picking her up unlessnecesarry. I followed every piece of advice in every book as well as onthe forum. Delilah is funny because I leave her door open all day andso she will follow me from room to room during the day, just don'tattempt to pet her or pick her up.
At 6mos, I decided to schedule the spay, knowing I was risking thelittle amount of trust I had developed and litter training by causingher pain. None the less I had the surgery, after calling tons of vetsand asking all the questions they tell you about on hrs website.FInally, the right vet and the surgery is done. 7 days after she is anew woman so to say. I can't type on the computer withouth her jumpingon the keyboard, but still not too keen on picking her up. The toys---she loves them. It is like they removed the ovaries and implanted apersonality. OMG I was so ready to get another one since I had beenadvised that would help her become more friendly. She is such a hamnow. Mind you that means she is into everything, but she listens to NOand comes when I call her. I definitely recommend it. I also would hateto think of someone falling in love with a rabbit and at 1yr old havingit have cancer. yes at 1yr. if you are worried just know after thesurgery RO is the best support team you will find. they helped me whenI had worries. Delilah let me hold her after the spay to syringe feedher, although not all rabbits need this. I did not know this but nowthey even can implant a chip to find her if the rabbit is lost orstolen. go figure. well good luck and best wishes. we are here for youif you need to chat.