littl3red
Ashtin - Member
I have been talking to my mom off and on about getting another rabbit, but she has a way of beating around the bush when she wants to say no and never actually says it. Unfortunately for her I'm persistent and I usually won't drop it until she gives me a straight answer, which is often yes because she rarely has a real reason for not letting me do things other than it doesn't please her. Anyways...
I emailed the humane society from the next town over about an adorable lionhead, Cricket. I told them that I still had research and such to do, but if I decided I should get another rabbit, I would like to plan a meeting with them and Teddy before I adopted. They basically said no problem.
I told my mom this, saying "I didn't make a commitment, I didn't sign anything, I just wanted to make sure it was okay before I kept searching there." She said "That doesn't make me very happy." "...What?" "The thought of you getting another rabbit doesn't make me very happy." "Okay, why?" "Because that's twice the poop..." "You don't have to clean it up, Mom, you've never had to clean it up. You know I take good care of her." And that made her REALLY mad for some reason. "I have a HEADACHE, I am NOT TALKING ABOUT THIS RIGHT NOW." And then she went outside.
So... I don't really know what to do. I guess I might just have to wait until I move out. I just wish she would give me, you know, a real reason, instead of avoiding the conversation because she knows the only reason she doesn't want me to get another rabbit is because she doesn't like rabbits, even though they make me extremely happy. Do any of you moms of human children know how I could talk to her? I mean, I understand that she doesn't like rabbits, but she doesn't have to feed Teddy, touch her, clean her cage, or even be in the same room as her. She doesn't pay a cent for her care. So I don't understand how she can say no... Another thing is that her and my dad have taken to calling me an adult when it suits their needs (when I need money, when my sister and I fight, etc.) but treat me like a child when it doesn't. (This situation, going to visit friends, etc. My mom won't let me stay alone at night under normal circumstances... but has left me alone overnight and even sent me off to spend the night at Boyfriend's house when HER boyfriend was coming into town, again, only when it suited HER needs.)
Sorry this has been so long, I didn't mean for it to be this way. I'm just really trying to think about this rationally and think of a way to talk to her, even if the final answer is no. I'm just tired of her not being able to actually discuss when I want something. I'm trying to handle it like an adult; I wish she would too.
I emailed the humane society from the next town over about an adorable lionhead, Cricket. I told them that I still had research and such to do, but if I decided I should get another rabbit, I would like to plan a meeting with them and Teddy before I adopted. They basically said no problem.
I told my mom this, saying "I didn't make a commitment, I didn't sign anything, I just wanted to make sure it was okay before I kept searching there." She said "That doesn't make me very happy." "...What?" "The thought of you getting another rabbit doesn't make me very happy." "Okay, why?" "Because that's twice the poop..." "You don't have to clean it up, Mom, you've never had to clean it up. You know I take good care of her." And that made her REALLY mad for some reason. "I have a HEADACHE, I am NOT TALKING ABOUT THIS RIGHT NOW." And then she went outside.
So... I don't really know what to do. I guess I might just have to wait until I move out. I just wish she would give me, you know, a real reason, instead of avoiding the conversation because she knows the only reason she doesn't want me to get another rabbit is because she doesn't like rabbits, even though they make me extremely happy. Do any of you moms of human children know how I could talk to her? I mean, I understand that she doesn't like rabbits, but she doesn't have to feed Teddy, touch her, clean her cage, or even be in the same room as her. She doesn't pay a cent for her care. So I don't understand how she can say no... Another thing is that her and my dad have taken to calling me an adult when it suits their needs (when I need money, when my sister and I fight, etc.) but treat me like a child when it doesn't. (This situation, going to visit friends, etc. My mom won't let me stay alone at night under normal circumstances... but has left me alone overnight and even sent me off to spend the night at Boyfriend's house when HER boyfriend was coming into town, again, only when it suited HER needs.)
Sorry this has been so long, I didn't mean for it to be this way. I'm just really trying to think about this rationally and think of a way to talk to her, even if the final answer is no. I'm just tired of her not being able to actually discuss when I want something. I'm trying to handle it like an adult; I wish she would too.