Kokkiniklosti
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Although i do not know his story it is too bad for such a young bun to die! I am really sorry for your loss!
R.I.P. Milly!
R.I.P. Milly!
Goodbye my sweet baby Milly
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ellissian
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Thank you everyone for all your kind words.
I'm still having a hard time right now, I can't seem to get my head round things. I can't believe my little bun had such an impact on my life in such a short time. He really was a special baby to me.
I keep thinking another bun may make me feel better but I'm not sure what to do. I would ideally like another from the same family but his owner will not breed again until christmas time.
Another bun will never come close to Milly or take his place, I hope I don't make a mistake and rush into things.
I love you Milly, I always will. My special little girly named boy. xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
I'm still having a hard time right now, I can't seem to get my head round things. I can't believe my little bun had such an impact on my life in such a short time. He really was a special baby to me.
I keep thinking another bun may make me feel better but I'm not sure what to do. I would ideally like another from the same family but his owner will not breed again until christmas time.
Another bun will never come close to Milly or take his place, I hope I don't make a mistake and rush into things.
I love you Milly, I always will. My special little girly named boy. xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Maybe try to look at a new bun, as a new friend, not to be compared, not the same, different good qualities, things like that.
You might find waiting until Christmas is a good idea for you, but you might decide to get another now and then to get a Milly-relative at christmas and bond them together. There are lots of options, and no right nor wrong. Try to give yourself some time to figure out what you want, but most likely your gut instinct is whats right for you.
I can understand wanting a relative. I keep Flash's genes alive by breeding his relatives so that I always have him.
I truly can relate.
x
You might find waiting until Christmas is a good idea for you, but you might decide to get another now and then to get a Milly-relative at christmas and bond them together. There are lots of options, and no right nor wrong. Try to give yourself some time to figure out what you want, but most likely your gut instinct is whats right for you.
I can understand wanting a relative. I keep Flash's genes alive by breeding his relatives so that I always have him.
I truly can relate.
x
ellissian
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For the past 2 days I've been obsessed with getting another black lop, obviously I'm just trying to get Milly back which is impossible.
The only lop I can find is a chocolate coloured one. I may go and take a look of him tomorrow, I will see how I feel.
I just want the pain to stop hurting, I'm still not sure if a new bun will help me.
The only lop I can find is a chocolate coloured one. I may go and take a look of him tomorrow, I will see how I feel.
I just want the pain to stop hurting, I'm still not sure if a new bun will help me.
Pet_Bunny
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Only time will lessen the pain.
Another bun, will never replace or be the same as Milly.
Just go with your heart.
Rainbows! :hug1
Another bun, will never replace or be the same as Milly.
Just go with your heart.
Rainbows! :hug1
ellissian
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To be honest I feel guilty and disrespectful even considering another bun so soon. Also after just reading up on VHD I dont think its safe to bring another rabbit into my home just yet. I know I dont know for definate that Milly had this, I still need to take it into consideration.
naturestee
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Oh no! This is such a shock, he was doing so well!
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It is totally up to you whether you want to get another bun now or not. It's impossible to know whether or not it was VHD without a necropsy (animal autopsy). But many rabbit rescues make sure their rabbits are vaccinated before going to a new home. They might also be able to recommend good ways to clean the hutch, just in case.
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It is totally up to you whether you want to get another bun now or not. It's impossible to know whether or not it was VHD without a necropsy (animal autopsy). But many rabbit rescues make sure their rabbits are vaccinated before going to a new home. They might also be able to recommend good ways to clean the hutch, just in case.
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ellissian
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I am 90 percent sure my baby died from VHD, I know I will never know for sure. He did show a lot of symptoms towards the end ....... high temp, lack of appetite, dull, lethargic, laying on his stomach. Also a while after he had passed, a small amount of blood appeared from either his nose or mouth. His stomach also became very swollen.
Im quite angry the vet did not even consider VHD an option.
I cant get my head round it.
Im quite angry the vet did not even consider VHD an option.
I cant get my head round it.
TinysMom
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What you are going through is very very normal. I lost my heart-bunny GingerSpice back in January and I still hurt (and I'm surrounded by bunnies). I think that when your heart is ready to let a new bunny in...you will know.
You need to remember that as much as you love Milly...I don't think he'd want you to be alone. Where he is now - there is no pain or suffering. He's binkying free with all the other bunnies we've lost on this forum. (If you believe in Rainbow Bridge - then you will also believe he is not alone right now).
If he is not alone - but in a place without pain....I think it is only right that you should be allowed to get another bunny (the right bunny - at the right time - for the right reasons). No - the bunny will never take Milly's place...but the bunny will make a place of its own in your heart....a place to help ease the grief and loneliness.
One of my bunnies is struggling right now with wry neck and GI Stasis (pretty much over the stasis by now)...and she has become my new heart bunny. Her name is Pow Wow and she looks and acts nothing at all like GingerSpice....but that is because she's Pow Wow....completely different.
Yet spending time with her fills the void that losing Ginger caused....I still miss Ginger and love her dearly. I'll always miss her.
But the pain is easing...day by day and bit by bit. I know someday I'll lose Pow Wow and I'll grieve all over again.
But at least my days will not have been totally empty..I will have been loved (and have had a heart-bunny to give love to).
Peg
You need to remember that as much as you love Milly...I don't think he'd want you to be alone. Where he is now - there is no pain or suffering. He's binkying free with all the other bunnies we've lost on this forum. (If you believe in Rainbow Bridge - then you will also believe he is not alone right now).
If he is not alone - but in a place without pain....I think it is only right that you should be allowed to get another bunny (the right bunny - at the right time - for the right reasons). No - the bunny will never take Milly's place...but the bunny will make a place of its own in your heart....a place to help ease the grief and loneliness.
One of my bunnies is struggling right now with wry neck and GI Stasis (pretty much over the stasis by now)...and she has become my new heart bunny. Her name is Pow Wow and she looks and acts nothing at all like GingerSpice....but that is because she's Pow Wow....completely different.
Yet spending time with her fills the void that losing Ginger caused....I still miss Ginger and love her dearly. I'll always miss her.
But the pain is easing...day by day and bit by bit. I know someday I'll lose Pow Wow and I'll grieve all over again.
But at least my days will not have been totally empty..I will have been loved (and have had a heart-bunny to give love to).
Peg
ellissian
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Thanks Peg
I have grieved the most today, it is getting harder instead of easier. Im not sure if its because today is the first time Ive been on the forum and read all the messages.
I just feel so much guilt.
I will know when I find the right bun. I actually held one yesterday, he was very placid and calm but he didnt feel right. So I put him back.
I dont feel right being on this forum, I dont have a rabbit anymore. I feel like I had my Milly 70 years not 7 weeks!
I think I not going to be able to come on here for a while.
I have grieved the most today, it is getting harder instead of easier. Im not sure if its because today is the first time Ive been on the forum and read all the messages.
I just feel so much guilt.
I will know when I find the right bun. I actually held one yesterday, he was very placid and calm but he didnt feel right. So I put him back.
I dont feel right being on this forum, I dont have a rabbit anymore. I feel like I had my Milly 70 years not 7 weeks!
I think I not going to be able to come on here for a while.
iluvmybuns
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Oh no! I am so sorry, I followed Milly's story since the first day...I can't believe it..
You'll know when you're ready for a new bun. And we will all be here for you when you need advice.
I don't know if this helps, but I have a tattoo I look at when I feel depressed when I think about those who've passed.
It reads:
Some leave us too soon, but they never leave at all.
So sorry again.
You'll know when you're ready for a new bun. And we will all be here for you when you need advice.
I don't know if this helps, but I have a tattoo I look at when I feel depressed when I think about those who've passed.
It reads:
Some leave us too soon, but they never leave at all.
So sorry again.
TinysMom
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Although I did have other rabbits here when Ginger died - I too thought about leaving the forum (and I'm a MODERATOR). It was so painful to read about the antics of other bunnies and how much people loved their rabbits. I felt like mine had been ripped away from me so unfairly.
But it got to the point where I was able to start enjoying looking at pictures again. I could read someone's blog without being angry that they had their rabbit and I didn't have Ginger.
My point? I do understand your pain - somewhat. I know yours is different because you had Milly such a short time.
I also understand blaming yourself. Now I suspect that Ginger hadn't had a stroke but had e cunniculi.....and what if I could've done more for her? What if I could've helped her stay with us longer? I'll always wonder.
But the thing is - those of us here - hurt with you too. We can be here even if the only place you can come is to this one thread and type out your anger and hurt and feelings of betrayal and loss or grief or whatever. Many of us here have also loved and lost....and we really do feel your pain.
I understand if you feel you must take a break - but remember - we really do care about you.
It can be natural to shut yourself off from folks when you've had a loss like this...just remember - we do care. OK?
Peg
ellissian wrote:
But it got to the point where I was able to start enjoying looking at pictures again. I could read someone's blog without being angry that they had their rabbit and I didn't have Ginger.
My point? I do understand your pain - somewhat. I know yours is different because you had Milly such a short time.
I also understand blaming yourself. Now I suspect that Ginger hadn't had a stroke but had e cunniculi.....and what if I could've done more for her? What if I could've helped her stay with us longer? I'll always wonder.
But the thing is - those of us here - hurt with you too. We can be here even if the only place you can come is to this one thread and type out your anger and hurt and feelings of betrayal and loss or grief or whatever. Many of us here have also loved and lost....and we really do feel your pain.
I understand if you feel you must take a break - but remember - we really do care about you.
It can be natural to shut yourself off from folks when you've had a loss like this...just remember - we do care. OK?
Peg
ellissian wrote:
ellissian
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Oh why is this so hard!
Yesterday it felt ok getting a new bunny, this morning it feels so wrong.
I love and miss Milly so much, it hurts so bad! I just want my baby back which I know can never happen.
I wish I knew what was the right thing to do.
Yesterday it felt ok getting a new bunny, this morning it feels so wrong.
I love and miss Milly so much, it hurts so bad! I just want my baby back which I know can never happen.
I wish I knew what was the right thing to do.
There is no right nor wrong thing to do, so maybe it's best to wait until you are sure.
Try to give yourself a break. You are struggling with a huge bereavement, and it's not going to go away easily, and it's understandable that things are confusing and you are not sure of what to do, so allow yourself to recognise that. If you are meant to have one of these rabbits, then you will end up with it, whether you get it now or later (that happened with my Sandy who I bought after a few bereavements), so maybe wait, focus on yourself and your family, and in time you'll really know what is right.
If you go to the stickies at the top of the Rainbow Bridge forum there are some links that might help you. I found writing to the PBSS really helped with my grief, just a thought.
You know where I am
x
Try to give yourself a break. You are struggling with a huge bereavement, and it's not going to go away easily, and it's understandable that things are confusing and you are not sure of what to do, so allow yourself to recognise that. If you are meant to have one of these rabbits, then you will end up with it, whether you get it now or later (that happened with my Sandy who I bought after a few bereavements), so maybe wait, focus on yourself and your family, and in time you'll really know what is right.
If you go to the stickies at the top of the Rainbow Bridge forum there are some links that might help you. I found writing to the PBSS really helped with my grief, just a thought.
You know where I am
x
ellissian
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Thanks Tracy
The kids are fine, too busy arguing about which bun to get! Kids have a different way of dealing with things, well mine do.
Ive just come back from town and Ive bought more things for a new bun. Not sure why.
I think if I get a new bun I can start pulling myself out of this hole Im in.
At the minute I am totally torturing myself with what
ifs and guilt. I feel so guilty about giving him tummy massagers when he may of had internal bleeding.
I need something new to focus on. To help me but not to forget him.
The kids are fine, too busy arguing about which bun to get! Kids have a different way of dealing with things, well mine do.
Ive just come back from town and Ive bought more things for a new bun. Not sure why.
I think if I get a new bun I can start pulling myself out of this hole Im in.
At the minute I am totally torturing myself with what
ifs and guilt. I feel so guilty about giving him tummy massagers when he may of had internal bleeding.
I need something new to focus on. To help me but not to forget him.
*hugs* What ifs and guilt are all part of grief. But try to draw comfort from the fact that you did the very best you could, with limited information. You followed the vets advice and did the right thing at that moment. No one can know whether or not he was bleeding, or even if it was VHD unless he has a necropsy, which probably won't actually help anyone.
Try to focus on the other bits, like the fact you were with him all the way through, that you gave him a cracking life, that you did your very best for him.
Yes, kids do deal with things differently, but remember that they won't have shared the bond you did with him, and also that each and every single person does grieve differently. When I was a child, they were 'just pets', but now, as an adult, they are friends.
I found having other bunnies around a real help after my various griefs, because everyone needs friends, and that's what they were.
Also, something to consider might be to make a 'Milly box' with all things that remind you of him, so that when you miss him, you can look in the box and remind yourself of the good times.
Try to focus on the other bits, like the fact you were with him all the way through, that you gave him a cracking life, that you did your very best for him.
Yes, kids do deal with things differently, but remember that they won't have shared the bond you did with him, and also that each and every single person does grieve differently. When I was a child, they were 'just pets', but now, as an adult, they are friends.
I found having other bunnies around a real help after my various griefs, because everyone needs friends, and that's what they were.
Also, something to consider might be to make a 'Milly box' with all things that remind you of him, so that when you miss him, you can look in the box and remind yourself of the good times.
ellissian
Well-Known Member
I already have a Milly Box its full of all his favourite things. Ive even kept little bits of paper he has chewed!
Im really upset about my computer, Im hoping all of his photos have not gone. The person who is fixing it is hoping to recover them for me.
I took photos of him every day, Ive got tons of him. I will be devastated if they are gone forever. At least I have a few of him on the forum, which is better than none.
Im still waiting for my friend to phone to see if she can finish work early, if not I cant go and look at buns today.
Im really upset about my computer, Im hoping all of his photos have not gone. The person who is fixing it is hoping to recover them for me.
I took photos of him every day, Ive got tons of him. I will be devastated if they are gone forever. At least I have a few of him on the forum, which is better than none.
Im still waiting for my friend to phone to see if she can finish work early, if not I cant go and look at buns today.
rabb1tmad
Well-Known Member
I'm so sorry for your loss. You clearly gave Milly all the love and attention in the world. It's so sad that such a sweet bunny has been taken.
Don't rush into anything and take your time to grieve. You will know when you are ready for another bunny - he/she will steal your heart.
P.S.: I hope you stay on the forum. We all want to help you through these difficult times and see you into happier times.
Binky free beautiful little Milly x
Don't rush into anything and take your time to grieve. You will know when you are ready for another bunny - he/she will steal your heart.
P.S.: I hope you stay on the forum. We all want to help you through these difficult times and see you into happier times.
Binky free beautiful little Milly x
I believe that there is a certain 'thing' inside the computer that will store it even if it appears to be lost, so if this guy can't do it, it might be worth finding the specialist of all specialists to see if they can help.
