girlzilla
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my bun is neutered and has had a girlfriend before called lola, but she had to be putto sleepdue to hind limb paralysis. i only had her a week but ludo adored her and they bonded very well. about a month after lola passed, i got him another girlfriend called mouse. this bonding didn't go so well. this time around he went INSANE and the bonding didn't go so well at all. mouse went back to her original home and my bun has been a bachelor ever since. he doesn't even like the cat being around him and attacks her at every chance lol.
anyway, i'm consideringgetting him a girl because i feel sorry for him being alone all day when i'm at work, and i worry he gets lonely. apparently he digs on my bedroom door when i am out, but obviously i don't know because i'm not there to witness it.
the reasons i am not sure about getting him a girl are:
1) it would break my heart to see him fall in love again if something were to happen to his new girlfriend and he winds up alone again. in a way, having him solo protects him from having to experience losing a mate again.
2) i'm worried he doesn't actually want a mate and getting him a girl might upset him more than if he were a solo bun.
3) i personally don't want to face having to fall in love with a second bun and have to face the fact that one day they will both be gone. accepting my ludo won't always be around is hard enough, let alone having to face TWO buns that i adore not being around forever! so in a way, i'm kind of protecting myself.
4) he's 2 years old and i'm concerned he might be too "set in his ways" to be able to adapt to having another bunny in his life.
does anyone have any advice on this? i want to do what's right for my bun but i'm nervous of making the wrong decision. i wouldn't want to get him a girl, only to take her back because the bonding just didn't work out. i would think that psychologically, that would be very hard and confusing on him. i just want whatever makes him happiest.
thanks for any advice
anyway, i'm consideringgetting him a girl because i feel sorry for him being alone all day when i'm at work, and i worry he gets lonely. apparently he digs on my bedroom door when i am out, but obviously i don't know because i'm not there to witness it.
the reasons i am not sure about getting him a girl are:
1) it would break my heart to see him fall in love again if something were to happen to his new girlfriend and he winds up alone again. in a way, having him solo protects him from having to experience losing a mate again.
2) i'm worried he doesn't actually want a mate and getting him a girl might upset him more than if he were a solo bun.
3) i personally don't want to face having to fall in love with a second bun and have to face the fact that one day they will both be gone. accepting my ludo won't always be around is hard enough, let alone having to face TWO buns that i adore not being around forever! so in a way, i'm kind of protecting myself.
4) he's 2 years old and i'm concerned he might be too "set in his ways" to be able to adapt to having another bunny in his life.
does anyone have any advice on this? i want to do what's right for my bun but i'm nervous of making the wrong decision. i wouldn't want to get him a girl, only to take her back because the bonding just didn't work out. i would think that psychologically, that would be very hard and confusing on him. i just want whatever makes him happiest.
thanks for any advice