Weetwoo_89
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Alrightie then. Welcome to the "Rachel has problems and wants to complain about them to someone" show.
The search for an apartment continues. I am actually seeking residence with my boyfriend. I know that most people straight out of highschool that move in with significant others have a tough time. I believe that it won't be as big a deal for us, because we have been living together for four years(due to a seriousissue with his living situation with hisfamily. So not going into it right now) in my mother's house.But now my mother has said that he can no longer live here (something about me being 18 now and boys and I don't really know. Supposedly "You will understand when you are a parent." And I just can't sleep in my bed knowing that he is crashing on someone's couch or in his car. I just can't. So the answer is to find an apartment. BUT...
I have no credit. He has TERRIBLE credit. This is just the begining of my pitiful tale. So he has terrible credit. If I put him on the lease, I will be likely not to get the place. If I don't put him on the lease, one of two things(possibly both): 1. I don't look like I have a job that pays enough for me to get by alone and 2. we will both end up out on our ears if someone figures out he is living in the apartment off lease. So that is super fun(sarcasm). BUT...
If I could get someone in my family who would co-sign with methat would be super. But since nobody is really 'down' with the "Rachel leaving her mommy's house" plan, that is kind of difficult. SO...
I am thinking about consulting my birth father and using his small vendetta against my mother and his well-paying job to my advantage. The only problem with that is that my father has an issue withwith my boyfriend ( nobody seems to care that I am happy with him. Possibly a "You're 18, you don't know what you want. When you finally do know what you want, you will be tooold to use it! ")due to his personal religious among other orientation choices... So that leaves a couple of options. I can tell my father nothing about Brian. But that is more deceitful then I like to be, and secondly, then my father will try to live with me. Not really down for that either (he has a good taste in music, but we disagree in a whole lot). ALSO...
Then another option. I have an aunt who lives in a three bedroom condo fairly close to where I need to be. She would probably rent a room to me. Possibly even be okay with Brian living there too. Problem? She is disabled from a surgery gone a-wry, married toa man whose child is already grown, and both would be about as happy to have us intruding on their space as we would be to theirs. WHAT NOW???
The next obvious choice would be a roommate with good credit to help mine and Brian's pitiful "no/bad" credit issue. I am not down for living with strangers (that is why Brian's credit is terrible. He trusted some people that he might not ought to have trusted *definitly shouldn't have trusted*. Anywho, sad to say,most of his friends are moochers (you know, people who expect you to take care of them financially?) and most of my friend's are too young to be of assistance. I actually had one friend, a perfect fit for a roommate. But Her boyfriend was not having it, and since I didn't want to strain their relationship, I left well-enough alone. THAT LEAVES ME AND HIM...
In limbo. The best option I can come up with is that we save money as quickly as possible. I figure if we have enough for 3-4 month's rent in advance, that might offset our credit issues a bit.
I guess I just want comments, opinons, advice. If you are going through a similar situation, trying to find a place, share with me. If you couldn't find a place for a long time, but finally have, give me a bit of inspiration. If you think I am an idiot for wanting to move out with this guy...keep it to yourself, please (the last thing I can handle right now is more people raggin on my boyfriend. My family does that enough for everyone.) Though you might say that there must be a reason that my dislikes him. I think it is an illegitimate reason, but I know why they think that (my ex was richer then god, and my family, being poor thought that it was an amazing thing. But I wasn't happy. Then I got with a guy who has no money just like us. I mean, I understand wanting your children to have things, but not at the cost of their happiness. At least in my opinion...). I have weighed it, and I have made my decision. I just wish my family was a bit more supportive. But I digress.
XOX, Rachel
The search for an apartment continues. I am actually seeking residence with my boyfriend. I know that most people straight out of highschool that move in with significant others have a tough time. I believe that it won't be as big a deal for us, because we have been living together for four years(due to a seriousissue with his living situation with hisfamily. So not going into it right now) in my mother's house.But now my mother has said that he can no longer live here (something about me being 18 now and boys and I don't really know. Supposedly "You will understand when you are a parent." And I just can't sleep in my bed knowing that he is crashing on someone's couch or in his car. I just can't. So the answer is to find an apartment. BUT...
I have no credit. He has TERRIBLE credit. This is just the begining of my pitiful tale. So he has terrible credit. If I put him on the lease, I will be likely not to get the place. If I don't put him on the lease, one of two things(possibly both): 1. I don't look like I have a job that pays enough for me to get by alone and 2. we will both end up out on our ears if someone figures out he is living in the apartment off lease. So that is super fun(sarcasm). BUT...
If I could get someone in my family who would co-sign with methat would be super. But since nobody is really 'down' with the "Rachel leaving her mommy's house" plan, that is kind of difficult. SO...
I am thinking about consulting my birth father and using his small vendetta against my mother and his well-paying job to my advantage. The only problem with that is that my father has an issue withwith my boyfriend ( nobody seems to care that I am happy with him. Possibly a "You're 18, you don't know what you want. When you finally do know what you want, you will be tooold to use it! ")due to his personal religious among other orientation choices... So that leaves a couple of options. I can tell my father nothing about Brian. But that is more deceitful then I like to be, and secondly, then my father will try to live with me. Not really down for that either (he has a good taste in music, but we disagree in a whole lot). ALSO...
Then another option. I have an aunt who lives in a three bedroom condo fairly close to where I need to be. She would probably rent a room to me. Possibly even be okay with Brian living there too. Problem? She is disabled from a surgery gone a-wry, married toa man whose child is already grown, and both would be about as happy to have us intruding on their space as we would be to theirs. WHAT NOW???
The next obvious choice would be a roommate with good credit to help mine and Brian's pitiful "no/bad" credit issue. I am not down for living with strangers (that is why Brian's credit is terrible. He trusted some people that he might not ought to have trusted *definitly shouldn't have trusted*. Anywho, sad to say,most of his friends are moochers (you know, people who expect you to take care of them financially?) and most of my friend's are too young to be of assistance. I actually had one friend, a perfect fit for a roommate. But Her boyfriend was not having it, and since I didn't want to strain their relationship, I left well-enough alone. THAT LEAVES ME AND HIM...
In limbo. The best option I can come up with is that we save money as quickly as possible. I figure if we have enough for 3-4 month's rent in advance, that might offset our credit issues a bit.
I guess I just want comments, opinons, advice. If you are going through a similar situation, trying to find a place, share with me. If you couldn't find a place for a long time, but finally have, give me a bit of inspiration. If you think I am an idiot for wanting to move out with this guy...keep it to yourself, please (the last thing I can handle right now is more people raggin on my boyfriend. My family does that enough for everyone.) Though you might say that there must be a reason that my dislikes him. I think it is an illegitimate reason, but I know why they think that (my ex was richer then god, and my family, being poor thought that it was an amazing thing. But I wasn't happy. Then I got with a guy who has no money just like us. I mean, I understand wanting your children to have things, but not at the cost of their happiness. At least in my opinion...). I have weighed it, and I have made my decision. I just wish my family was a bit more supportive. But I digress.
XOX, Rachel
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