MyBoyHarper
Well-Known Member
Okay, so this is going to be a bit long, but I have to just get it out. So bare with me!
Two and a half years ago, I met a little 10 year old boy. He startedwalking to the pet store I worked at everyday to buy crickets for hisfrogs he would catch. We formed a bond and we became very close. Hismom was a drug addict and alcoholic who had full custody of him withher boyfriend. His mom liked me right from the beginning (probablybecause over time, I ended up doing EVERYTHING for him). I became hisbest friend and I took him to school, picked him up from school, tookhim to all his basketball games, recorded and took pictures of hisgames for him, chatted with all the other b-ball mom's because his momwas never around. I became close to his grandma (his real dad'smother), as she was the only other one around. Due to age though, itwas harder for her to do as much for him. I bought him birthday andchristmas presents, took him to the movies and mall, and basicallyspent half my paycheck on him every payday. Well, 6 months ago I quitmy job and they moved far off soon after. We continued to talk, butwhen they lost their phone, I couldn't get in contact with him.
Well, I was at the store today and I bought him some christmaspresents. While in the store, I called his grandma to ask her if she'dbe making a trip to see him, or if they would be coming down soon sothat he could get his presents. She said yes, and that he may be downfor Christmas at her house and she would definitely make sure I got tosee him (I think I'll have a fit when I see my baby!). She then went onto tell me the latest news. His mom broke up with her boyfriend afterhe beat her senseless (never hadmuch sense to begin with),and then she got busted for crystal meth. She went to jail and lostcustody of him and his little brother and sister, and they all livewith their dad now very far away. He ended up seeing ALL of this, andthen when the mother got out of jail, she was homeless and living onthe street because she's an addict now. Now they can't even find her,but no one seems too concerned (you'd have to know her to find out whattype of parent she was, or lack there of... *snorts*).
I just feel so bad and everyone keeps telling me that I was the ONLYpositive thing in his life. And that makes me feel great, but then theygo on to say that with his childhood, he's going to grow up to have alot of problems (he's already on his way there). I wish I could preventthis or do something about it. I get pissed at myself for not doingMORE, but then I feel like there's not much I can do. In the beginning,everyone pushed me to get custody of himand he wantedto come live with me. His grandma actually supported this, but hismother refused to give up rights. Now she lost her rights and he's withhis real dad, who used to never get to see him due to her having fullcustody. He is in a more stable environment now, but he's gone throughone thing after the other lately. And now his OTHER grandma, hismother's mom, is trying to take custody away from his father! No ideahow that is going to go....
*Sigh* Tis the season...
Two and a half years ago, I met a little 10 year old boy. He startedwalking to the pet store I worked at everyday to buy crickets for hisfrogs he would catch. We formed a bond and we became very close. Hismom was a drug addict and alcoholic who had full custody of him withher boyfriend. His mom liked me right from the beginning (probablybecause over time, I ended up doing EVERYTHING for him). I became hisbest friend and I took him to school, picked him up from school, tookhim to all his basketball games, recorded and took pictures of hisgames for him, chatted with all the other b-ball mom's because his momwas never around. I became close to his grandma (his real dad'smother), as she was the only other one around. Due to age though, itwas harder for her to do as much for him. I bought him birthday andchristmas presents, took him to the movies and mall, and basicallyspent half my paycheck on him every payday. Well, 6 months ago I quitmy job and they moved far off soon after. We continued to talk, butwhen they lost their phone, I couldn't get in contact with him.
Well, I was at the store today and I bought him some christmaspresents. While in the store, I called his grandma to ask her if she'dbe making a trip to see him, or if they would be coming down soon sothat he could get his presents. She said yes, and that he may be downfor Christmas at her house and she would definitely make sure I got tosee him (I think I'll have a fit when I see my baby!). She then went onto tell me the latest news. His mom broke up with her boyfriend afterhe beat her senseless (never hadmuch sense to begin with),and then she got busted for crystal meth. She went to jail and lostcustody of him and his little brother and sister, and they all livewith their dad now very far away. He ended up seeing ALL of this, andthen when the mother got out of jail, she was homeless and living onthe street because she's an addict now. Now they can't even find her,but no one seems too concerned (you'd have to know her to find out whattype of parent she was, or lack there of... *snorts*).
I just feel so bad and everyone keeps telling me that I was the ONLYpositive thing in his life. And that makes me feel great, but then theygo on to say that with his childhood, he's going to grow up to have alot of problems (he's already on his way there). I wish I could preventthis or do something about it. I get pissed at myself for not doingMORE, but then I feel like there's not much I can do. In the beginning,everyone pushed me to get custody of himand he wantedto come live with me. His grandma actually supported this, but hismother refused to give up rights. Now she lost her rights and he's withhis real dad, who used to never get to see him due to her having fullcustody. He is in a more stable environment now, but he's gone throughone thing after the other lately. And now his OTHER grandma, hismother's mom, is trying to take custody away from his father! No ideahow that is going to go....
*Sigh* Tis the season...