Nelson_is_mine
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This is going to be one of the longest posts that you have ever read and I admire you if you make it through the whole thing. I also apologise for any casualties. Feel free to skip to the last paragraph where I actually ask my questions at anytime.
So about a week ago I went into the Ma and Pa pet shop to get some litter. I go there about once a week for something or another, so this is not unusual. Before I get what I need, I always go and say hi to the critters and kittens, but most importantly the buns. And I saw him.
The store takes in unwanted litters of everything, but I'm pretty sure that they get their birds and chinchillas from breeders. Anyway, so they had the usual nethie mix babies and lionheads and i said hello to each in turn and I noticed that there were three Holland lops. I assume that they were turned in from the same home, seeing as they all came in at the same time, even though they were in different cages. There were two bucks and a doe. They were full grown, the youngest buck was probably around one, though I didn't ask. It was pretty, as was the doe, but I looked at the second buck and melted. While the other two rabbits headed for the hills when I opened up the cage door to offer a scratch, this little guy actually came toward me, put on the brakes and stuck his head to the floor, demanding upon meeting me to groom him. This poor guy is not in good condition. His fur is coarse, i could feel every bone, and his ears were all scratched and there was a lot of scar tissue built up in them, and yet there he was, as sweet as could be.
I mean, I go in there all the time. I see nice bunnies all the time. Scared bunnies, happy bunnies, snuggly bunnies, I'm there, I meet them. I hang out with them and then I leave. But I just couldn't tear myself away from this buck. My mother had to practically had to physically remove me from the store. I thought about him the rest of the day and the day after that. Everyday until I went back today to get food. There was my buck. He ran up to the cage before I even opened it, sticking his cute little nose through the bars and actually licking between the holes like a dog! And my own Nelson has only licked me once, the day I met him in the very same store in very same cage seven months ago. I knew instantly that Nelson was mine then, though I had to fight for him for two weeks with my parents. And there is this buck doing the same thing and I'm getting the same little feeling in my heart and I'm very afraid.
Nelson is yet to be neutered. He was six months old when I got him and I planned on doing it within the first two months of getting him but there just hasn't been a time what with my summer job and then school starting that I would have been able to devote to his recovery. It's going to be done within the next month and I feel very guilty that it is this late. This is problem numero uno with me falling in love with another bun. I don't have a problem with the money for the two surgeries or the time to devote to their recovery anymore, but I am worried about my carpet and walls. Nelson has never sprayed but I'm pretty sure that if I brought another male into the same space as him (my bedroom) that he would. And not to mention the other bun! That would be enough to confirm my parent's initial hesitation alone, even though it would only be temporary. My parents would say no just because of that fact. But there are probably other ways that he could react, even if the cages are on opposite sides of the room, he would def. know that there was another rabbit in his territory and be unhappy about it right? What might these be? I've always planned on getting another bun, but I wanted to fall in love with one when I had moved out (I'm sixteen) and Nelson was neutered and settled into his new home. The timing seems awfully inconvenient, but I have fallen in love.
But I have to worry about the soul mate that I already have and how he might react to this. I think he would be okay with taking a friend. he sits in front of a mirror and just stares at himself and he grooms stuffed animals and blankets, so he might not mind another bunny to sit and stare at and groom. I know that boys are the hardest to bond, but I want to give it a try, especially if it is with these two boys. And if not, that's fine, too. I have room for two separate cages and runs in my room and everything. But I don't want Nelson to get upset or anything if I am able to convince my parents to let me have this new bun. That's a huge if, though. My mom met and loved the bun, but my dad didn't even really want Nelson in the house. I looked into fostering over the summer but couldn't because all members of the household had to be willing to have him there, even if he was my foster. If he didn't want another temporary bun, then I can see I will have a tough time convincing him that a second bun is the way to go.
So, a long post short, what has been your experience with bringing second buns into the home? Tips for convincing parents would be nice, too. I just want to make sure that this is the right decision before I even approach them about it. As much as I love this guy, I'd give him up if it was better for Nelson.
So about a week ago I went into the Ma and Pa pet shop to get some litter. I go there about once a week for something or another, so this is not unusual. Before I get what I need, I always go and say hi to the critters and kittens, but most importantly the buns. And I saw him.
The store takes in unwanted litters of everything, but I'm pretty sure that they get their birds and chinchillas from breeders. Anyway, so they had the usual nethie mix babies and lionheads and i said hello to each in turn and I noticed that there were three Holland lops. I assume that they were turned in from the same home, seeing as they all came in at the same time, even though they were in different cages. There were two bucks and a doe. They were full grown, the youngest buck was probably around one, though I didn't ask. It was pretty, as was the doe, but I looked at the second buck and melted. While the other two rabbits headed for the hills when I opened up the cage door to offer a scratch, this little guy actually came toward me, put on the brakes and stuck his head to the floor, demanding upon meeting me to groom him. This poor guy is not in good condition. His fur is coarse, i could feel every bone, and his ears were all scratched and there was a lot of scar tissue built up in them, and yet there he was, as sweet as could be.
I mean, I go in there all the time. I see nice bunnies all the time. Scared bunnies, happy bunnies, snuggly bunnies, I'm there, I meet them. I hang out with them and then I leave. But I just couldn't tear myself away from this buck. My mother had to practically had to physically remove me from the store. I thought about him the rest of the day and the day after that. Everyday until I went back today to get food. There was my buck. He ran up to the cage before I even opened it, sticking his cute little nose through the bars and actually licking between the holes like a dog! And my own Nelson has only licked me once, the day I met him in the very same store in very same cage seven months ago. I knew instantly that Nelson was mine then, though I had to fight for him for two weeks with my parents. And there is this buck doing the same thing and I'm getting the same little feeling in my heart and I'm very afraid.
Nelson is yet to be neutered. He was six months old when I got him and I planned on doing it within the first two months of getting him but there just hasn't been a time what with my summer job and then school starting that I would have been able to devote to his recovery. It's going to be done within the next month and I feel very guilty that it is this late. This is problem numero uno with me falling in love with another bun. I don't have a problem with the money for the two surgeries or the time to devote to their recovery anymore, but I am worried about my carpet and walls. Nelson has never sprayed but I'm pretty sure that if I brought another male into the same space as him (my bedroom) that he would. And not to mention the other bun! That would be enough to confirm my parent's initial hesitation alone, even though it would only be temporary. My parents would say no just because of that fact. But there are probably other ways that he could react, even if the cages are on opposite sides of the room, he would def. know that there was another rabbit in his territory and be unhappy about it right? What might these be? I've always planned on getting another bun, but I wanted to fall in love with one when I had moved out (I'm sixteen) and Nelson was neutered and settled into his new home. The timing seems awfully inconvenient, but I have fallen in love.
But I have to worry about the soul mate that I already have and how he might react to this. I think he would be okay with taking a friend. he sits in front of a mirror and just stares at himself and he grooms stuffed animals and blankets, so he might not mind another bunny to sit and stare at and groom. I know that boys are the hardest to bond, but I want to give it a try, especially if it is with these two boys. And if not, that's fine, too. I have room for two separate cages and runs in my room and everything. But I don't want Nelson to get upset or anything if I am able to convince my parents to let me have this new bun. That's a huge if, though. My mom met and loved the bun, but my dad didn't even really want Nelson in the house. I looked into fostering over the summer but couldn't because all members of the household had to be willing to have him there, even if he was my foster. If he didn't want another temporary bun, then I can see I will have a tough time convincing him that a second bun is the way to go.
So, a long post short, what has been your experience with bringing second buns into the home? Tips for convincing parents would be nice, too. I just want to make sure that this is the right decision before I even approach them about it. As much as I love this guy, I'd give him up if it was better for Nelson.