Andre's mom's health insurance just went up to a point where they may not be able to pay for it. Now I personally don't care for this "public option" stuff flying around, but I also think that health insurance needs a LOT of reform.
The problem is that his mom may want to go on Andre's state health insurance. I mean, it's understandable, but sometimes I just get really tired of their dependency upon him. It's that, and the fact that he has three brothers they need to call. She really needs to be on insurance, because then they won't be able to pay for the doctor at all.
Now, for my rant. Our health insurance used to be pretty good, but lately it has been really stupid. They wanted my dad to switch to a different acid reflux drug...that saves them $20 a year. Well, it doesn't work for him as he has tried it before. So now, he had to threaten to call a lawyer and whatnot. which he actually would do. But he pays for everything for myself.
Here is my problem. In the wonderful state I live in, children inherit their parents' debt. Whether we like it or not, we have to pay it off. And sometimes, considering the debt that his parents are in, it makes me want to scream.
I want to marry Andre one day but sometimes these issues just seem to freaking large. Yeah everyone keeps saying that I have been spoiled. Yeah I came from an upper middle class family with a comfortable amount of money, yeah I get a lot of stuff most people don't. Yeah my school and rent are all paid for.
Despite these things, I wasn't raised to be completely unpractical. When I marry Andre', until veterinary school is over, I am on his budget, his health insurance, his car insurance, his everything insurance. Yeah a vet salary should pay for itself within my time of getting out of school, and he has a steady, professional, well-paying job but it's still like beating my head against a wall. Because when we have a house note and insurance premiums and god-only-knows-what-else (probably a car note because I am planning on getting a new car by 2014, but this will be small because I will have most of the $$ for it by then), I don't really want their expenses hanging over our heads.
My mom keeps telling me these things have a way of working themselves out, and my parents will always help and won't let me starve or get off of health insurance. But sometimes, my prescriptions for my skin are really expensive, as in when we have to fill them all at once they're about $550. I don't know. If he has to pay for them too... I have had everything paid for in my life. Yes this makes me spoiled to some people. I'm going from being on a 6-figure salary budget to a respectable but much more moderate budget, and this is difficult for me.
At least my veterinary expenses are paid for until the day I die...lol.
Ok I just felt like ranting. I am expensive. Not really, but fairly. I like nicer clothes. I don't buy Wal*Mart clothes. (Sometimes Target though. Lol.) I don't wear drug store makeup because it makes my skin break out. I don't buy cheap shoes because they don't last and they are uncomfortable as hell. People make it sound like I am a high-maintenence @#$%^. Well, I don't buy freaking Prada shoes, or if I do they are like 70% off the ticketed price. I'm sorry if I know that fake leather looks like crap and feels like crap, too. And everyone makes it sound like I am some kind of evil demon. I save up my salary for my car, which I am planning on getting a certified pre-owned 2005-2007 GT Mustang when I turn 25. I would get it sooner, but monthly insurance would be too much. I save up my salary for my nicer clothes, and buy them when the time fits. I save up my money for the things that I like. I have a budget about them. I know how long my makeup/lotions/stuff lasts, so I budget for those things. I'm not and evil money-spender who doesn't care where the pocketbook is coming from.
And when we go out to eat, I am respectful of financial boundaries. I don't expect to be taken to Ruth Chris' Steakhouse every week. I pay for myself, unless its an official 'date,' but sometimes I pay for Andre' as a token of appreciation for being a good person. I'm really not evil. I'm really not, and I'm tired of everyone around me's insinuation that I am an expensive, spoiled brat. When I look at my monthly expenses, they aren't that bad.
And then, I get tired of people saying, "money doesn't matter in a marriage!" Well, BS it doesn't. If I can't get the things I need- medicine, or the other things that allow me to be a professional and feel comfortable with myself- and if I have to wear the same clothes for 10 years, I will be d@#$%@ if I am happy. Maybe this means I am horrible. Sorry, but I don't believe in unconditional love. I will do everything in my power to take care of someone, to love and cherish my spouse. I will provide love, a stable household, and yeah, that involved being a bread winner.
That's another thing people need to get over. I am a woman and I will probably be making more money than most men. They need to get. over. it. Screw off. And for that matter, if I don't want kids until I'm 30, then that is my right. If I don't want kids after 40, that is my right. So I have a 10 year window. I'm 21 years old, in the thick of school, soon to be going to veterinary school, and my concern is not providing for a child.
People are stupid.
Continuing along, not ranting, my 21st birthday is Sunday. I am not planning on going out and partying. I did this already, underage, and it really wasn't all that fun. So, we are going get sushi, and going dancing, but mostly it shall be a calm night.
Sorry for the rant. I just got really really annoyed. I appreciate input......
The problem is that his mom may want to go on Andre's state health insurance. I mean, it's understandable, but sometimes I just get really tired of their dependency upon him. It's that, and the fact that he has three brothers they need to call. She really needs to be on insurance, because then they won't be able to pay for the doctor at all.
Now, for my rant. Our health insurance used to be pretty good, but lately it has been really stupid. They wanted my dad to switch to a different acid reflux drug...that saves them $20 a year. Well, it doesn't work for him as he has tried it before. So now, he had to threaten to call a lawyer and whatnot. which he actually would do. But he pays for everything for myself.
Here is my problem. In the wonderful state I live in, children inherit their parents' debt. Whether we like it or not, we have to pay it off. And sometimes, considering the debt that his parents are in, it makes me want to scream.
I want to marry Andre one day but sometimes these issues just seem to freaking large. Yeah everyone keeps saying that I have been spoiled. Yeah I came from an upper middle class family with a comfortable amount of money, yeah I get a lot of stuff most people don't. Yeah my school and rent are all paid for.
Despite these things, I wasn't raised to be completely unpractical. When I marry Andre', until veterinary school is over, I am on his budget, his health insurance, his car insurance, his everything insurance. Yeah a vet salary should pay for itself within my time of getting out of school, and he has a steady, professional, well-paying job but it's still like beating my head against a wall. Because when we have a house note and insurance premiums and god-only-knows-what-else (probably a car note because I am planning on getting a new car by 2014, but this will be small because I will have most of the $$ for it by then), I don't really want their expenses hanging over our heads.
My mom keeps telling me these things have a way of working themselves out, and my parents will always help and won't let me starve or get off of health insurance. But sometimes, my prescriptions for my skin are really expensive, as in when we have to fill them all at once they're about $550. I don't know. If he has to pay for them too... I have had everything paid for in my life. Yes this makes me spoiled to some people. I'm going from being on a 6-figure salary budget to a respectable but much more moderate budget, and this is difficult for me.
At least my veterinary expenses are paid for until the day I die...lol.
Ok I just felt like ranting. I am expensive. Not really, but fairly. I like nicer clothes. I don't buy Wal*Mart clothes. (Sometimes Target though. Lol.) I don't wear drug store makeup because it makes my skin break out. I don't buy cheap shoes because they don't last and they are uncomfortable as hell. People make it sound like I am a high-maintenence @#$%^. Well, I don't buy freaking Prada shoes, or if I do they are like 70% off the ticketed price. I'm sorry if I know that fake leather looks like crap and feels like crap, too. And everyone makes it sound like I am some kind of evil demon. I save up my salary for my car, which I am planning on getting a certified pre-owned 2005-2007 GT Mustang when I turn 25. I would get it sooner, but monthly insurance would be too much. I save up my salary for my nicer clothes, and buy them when the time fits. I save up my money for the things that I like. I have a budget about them. I know how long my makeup/lotions/stuff lasts, so I budget for those things. I'm not and evil money-spender who doesn't care where the pocketbook is coming from.
And when we go out to eat, I am respectful of financial boundaries. I don't expect to be taken to Ruth Chris' Steakhouse every week. I pay for myself, unless its an official 'date,' but sometimes I pay for Andre' as a token of appreciation for being a good person. I'm really not evil. I'm really not, and I'm tired of everyone around me's insinuation that I am an expensive, spoiled brat. When I look at my monthly expenses, they aren't that bad.
And then, I get tired of people saying, "money doesn't matter in a marriage!" Well, BS it doesn't. If I can't get the things I need- medicine, or the other things that allow me to be a professional and feel comfortable with myself- and if I have to wear the same clothes for 10 years, I will be d@#$%@ if I am happy. Maybe this means I am horrible. Sorry, but I don't believe in unconditional love. I will do everything in my power to take care of someone, to love and cherish my spouse. I will provide love, a stable household, and yeah, that involved being a bread winner.
That's another thing people need to get over. I am a woman and I will probably be making more money than most men. They need to get. over. it. Screw off. And for that matter, if I don't want kids until I'm 30, then that is my right. If I don't want kids after 40, that is my right. So I have a 10 year window. I'm 21 years old, in the thick of school, soon to be going to veterinary school, and my concern is not providing for a child.
People are stupid.
Continuing along, not ranting, my 21st birthday is Sunday. I am not planning on going out and partying. I did this already, underage, and it really wasn't all that fun. So, we are going get sushi, and going dancing, but mostly it shall be a calm night.
Sorry for the rant. I just got really really annoyed. I appreciate input......