delusional
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Okay, so I'm turning 21 in July. In February, I booked two weeks off work over my birthday, and asked my parents if I could make use of their garden to have a barbeque, and invite Lee's family and the rest of my family and a couple of friends. They agreed.
Cool.
So it's getting closer, and I've been looking at cheap barbeques and planning what I'm going to do.
I just popped round to my parents' house to pick up a letter, and they told me that my sister had said she also wanted to have a barbeque to celebrate her birthday (which just happens to fall on the same day as mine - but she's two years older), and also to celebrate her recent engagement. Okay, fine.
So I'm talking to my mum about dates and how we can sort it out, and my mum decides that it's just too much hassle for her to have two separate parties, and now I've got to have a joint birthday/birthday/engagement/my little sister passing her exams party so that my mum can feel like she's celebrated everything and can get it all over in one evening, and feel uncomfortable around a bunch of people I don't know/don't like (don't know=my older sister's fiancee's parents/don't like=my younger sister's friends).
I've had to share my birthday since I was a little kid, and fair enough, I suppose, but this is my 21st! All I asked for was the use of the garden. I didn't ask my parents to run out and buy a big gas barbeque, which they're now doing, and I didn't ask my mum to cook for everyone and look after everyone. I was going to buy, bring and cook my own food, and even bring my own barbeque!
I've said all this to her, but it's clear she's stressing about her busy summer schedule and if I keep on about it she'll just go crazy and either say I have no choice or be bitter throughout the whole thing.
I can't say I've changed my mind and want to do something else for my birthday now, because she'll know it's because of that and it'll probably end up being the latter. They're going on holiday the week after, so I know I could just have people over again for a more personal party, but then my parents won't be there and also it'll look like I'm being ungrateful.
I don't know what to do, I had this all planned out and now it just feels like its runied...
Cool.
So it's getting closer, and I've been looking at cheap barbeques and planning what I'm going to do.
I just popped round to my parents' house to pick up a letter, and they told me that my sister had said she also wanted to have a barbeque to celebrate her birthday (which just happens to fall on the same day as mine - but she's two years older), and also to celebrate her recent engagement. Okay, fine.
So I'm talking to my mum about dates and how we can sort it out, and my mum decides that it's just too much hassle for her to have two separate parties, and now I've got to have a joint birthday/birthday/engagement/my little sister passing her exams party so that my mum can feel like she's celebrated everything and can get it all over in one evening, and feel uncomfortable around a bunch of people I don't know/don't like (don't know=my older sister's fiancee's parents/don't like=my younger sister's friends).
I've had to share my birthday since I was a little kid, and fair enough, I suppose, but this is my 21st! All I asked for was the use of the garden. I didn't ask my parents to run out and buy a big gas barbeque, which they're now doing, and I didn't ask my mum to cook for everyone and look after everyone. I was going to buy, bring and cook my own food, and even bring my own barbeque!
I've said all this to her, but it's clear she's stressing about her busy summer schedule and if I keep on about it she'll just go crazy and either say I have no choice or be bitter throughout the whole thing.
I can't say I've changed my mind and want to do something else for my birthday now, because she'll know it's because of that and it'll probably end up being the latter. They're going on holiday the week after, so I know I could just have people over again for a more personal party, but then my parents won't be there and also it'll look like I'm being ungrateful.
I don't know what to do, I had this all planned out and now it just feels like its runied...