Aina
Well-Known Member
Ok, so a few months ago I liked a guy for a while and although we didnât really do anything aside from talk a bit, he brought me out of my shell a little into actually wanting to do stuff with people instead of just being an observer. My best friend lives a ways away and she doesnât go to the same college as I do and I want some people here that I can be friends with.
There is a certain group that I want to belong to. They are all really nice and donât seem to purposely exclude people, they just donât notice other people much. But they do more than other groups at church do. Some of them will actually say hi. Plus there is a certain guy that I want to be friends with because I like being around him, he has a good spirit, so I want to be able to hang out with him more. (It's *not* a crush, I swear!... What is your definition of *crush?* )
Really though, for the past few years, ever since we left a small church where everyone was like family, I have pretty much scoffed Christian fellowship, but now I just really need it. I have been able to go two years of college "on my own" so to speak, but I am tired of it! I have some good friends that aren't in my stage of life, but I need some who are.
Anyways considering I was a total recluse in highschool and pretty much hung out in a corner of the youth room and didnât talk to anyone, it has been a process. I have written before about how I hated to go to church because I got really uncomfortable, well now I am better, thanks to that guy. But he goes to a different church now.
I have finally gotten to where I am pretty good at small talk with people if I can get them one on one, and everyone would probably say âoh, she is a nice girlâ but like today in Sunday school there were probably 80 people there and it was crowded and I got really nervous.
So anyway, some people like come and are immediately in âthe groupâ so to speak, and then others languish on the sidelines forever. It happens here just like everywhere else though generally the people here are really nice anyways. How do you get in âthe groupâ Is it just starting to hang around them and talk sometimes. Be a groupie? lol. I donât want to come across as strange or needy, lol, but I do want to hang out with these people. So that is my dilemma. Cookies if you read this far and ice cream if you can help!
There is a certain group that I want to belong to. They are all really nice and donât seem to purposely exclude people, they just donât notice other people much. But they do more than other groups at church do. Some of them will actually say hi. Plus there is a certain guy that I want to be friends with because I like being around him, he has a good spirit, so I want to be able to hang out with him more. (It's *not* a crush, I swear!... What is your definition of *crush?* )
Really though, for the past few years, ever since we left a small church where everyone was like family, I have pretty much scoffed Christian fellowship, but now I just really need it. I have been able to go two years of college "on my own" so to speak, but I am tired of it! I have some good friends that aren't in my stage of life, but I need some who are.
Anyways considering I was a total recluse in highschool and pretty much hung out in a corner of the youth room and didnât talk to anyone, it has been a process. I have written before about how I hated to go to church because I got really uncomfortable, well now I am better, thanks to that guy. But he goes to a different church now.
I have finally gotten to where I am pretty good at small talk with people if I can get them one on one, and everyone would probably say âoh, she is a nice girlâ but like today in Sunday school there were probably 80 people there and it was crowded and I got really nervous.
So anyway, some people like come and are immediately in âthe groupâ so to speak, and then others languish on the sidelines forever. It happens here just like everywhere else though generally the people here are really nice anyways. How do you get in âthe groupâ Is it just starting to hang around them and talk sometimes. Be a groupie? lol. I donât want to come across as strange or needy, lol, but I do want to hang out with these people. So that is my dilemma. Cookies if you read this far and ice cream if you can help!