My holland hated to be picked up, as most rabbtis do, but tolerates it now though still fights it. I spent a lot of one on one time with him and hand fed treats spaced throughout the day. I would also hand feed his pellet feed and then slowly get him to eat them off my stomach or lap. He's no longer scared but still fights to be picked up, maybe if you need to pick your rabbit up is get them in a small space where they can't run off and then scoop them up. Once I pull my rabbit into my chest quickly the kicking and fighting stops, I try to do this once a day then place him back down on a positive note. I place him down when he isn't fighting and reward with a treat. It's tough and some will always put some type of fight up but you just have to keep working at it I think.