I gave up. She'll kicking like hell when i try to hold her and shedding her fur like i can make a winter cloth with it. Once she's kicking and bleed herself at her mouth. I can do nothing nor i can clip her nails because i cannot hold her. I'm a sad mommy.
Mine is also like that. Couldnt pick her up because she'll crazily struggle and will jump eventho its very high. She'll ended up molting like crazily when i try to pick her up. I also dont know what to do.. I already tried in about 3 months but its not working. She'll struggle and will jumped...
I use litter from woodpine. I could say litter from wood is absorbing odor greatly compared to other types of litter. Well in my case i live in a very humid and hot area. This one works.
Yeah i agree with the comment above, try putting her in a playpen and see how it goes. 3 years is a long time, theres probably a caused that you didnt know / realized.
Do you spend most of your free time with her?
Make her used with your smell and dont shows that you're afraid (animal can sense the fear) so they charges more.
Keep on a tone "its ok flower, dont worry honey.." And slowly rubbed her head. But if she shows that she'll attack you then smile...