dreamgal042
Well-Known Member
sorry, i just need to rant somewhere.
as you guys may or not know, my mom passed away suddenly a year and ahalf ago. my dad started dating again in january...10mo after. he brokeup with that woman after..i dunno, a few months? then a couple monthsago he started telling me he was going to the movies with 'a friend' orgoing to dinner with 'a friend'. well thanks to my friends mom, sheasked if he was dating, and he told me he was. they've been pressing meto meet her, as are all the people ive talked to. everyones like 'justmeet her! whats the worst that could happen?' and im like 'i hateher!!!' as much as they tell me otherwise, i still feel like this womanis going to replace my mom...at least to my dad. he doesnt know i feelthis way. he thinks im fine with it. he goes out with her at least acouple times a week. but today...just about 15 minutes ago, my dadcomes into my den to tell me he's going out tonight...overnight... iask with who...i didnt have to..."my friend mary beth" (thats thelady). i loooooooooost it. once he left the room, i was bawling. itried to call both my sisters, neither were there. i called one of myfriends, she wasnt there. i called one of the women i babysit for, andhung up halfway through in fear of sounding stupid. once i called myother friend, she was there. she invited me to sleep over her housetonight. the woman i babysit for, mentioned above, when i sent her acopy of the email my dads friend sent to be forwarded to me, she saidthe lady was trying way too hard. heres the email:
I hope you liked the flower. It is one of my favorites, the tuberosa,and I chose it for you because your Dad declared your party "anabsolute triumph"....
(he said you thought of everything) and I wanted you to have 'the sweetsmell of success" to carry with you through the week to remind you ofthe terrific thing you did today, and the poise and maturity thathelped you carry it off.
Seriously, I not only admire your loving care and consideration ofchildren, I share it. I'm hoping that someday soon you'll feelcomfortable in meeting me and we can explore this as common ground forbeginning a friendship.
When you are ready, give me a chance...you might be pleasantly surprised....
mb
the flowers she references...on the day of my biiiiiiiig party that idbeen planning for months, she gave my dad flowers to give to me. ithrew 'em on the ground behind the house cuz i didnt want 'em. turnsout my dad found 'em and put 'em in a vase on his desk. to me, theylooked like those flowers that belong on a grave, so i thought shewanted me dead, or she wanted to kill me. teenage mind. i love mymom...and miss her so much. i have a framed drawing of her when she was10 in my den, right above my chinchilla's cage. i just celebrated her60th birthday on wednesday.
sorry for ranting.
as you guys may or not know, my mom passed away suddenly a year and ahalf ago. my dad started dating again in january...10mo after. he brokeup with that woman after..i dunno, a few months? then a couple monthsago he started telling me he was going to the movies with 'a friend' orgoing to dinner with 'a friend'. well thanks to my friends mom, sheasked if he was dating, and he told me he was. they've been pressing meto meet her, as are all the people ive talked to. everyones like 'justmeet her! whats the worst that could happen?' and im like 'i hateher!!!' as much as they tell me otherwise, i still feel like this womanis going to replace my mom...at least to my dad. he doesnt know i feelthis way. he thinks im fine with it. he goes out with her at least acouple times a week. but today...just about 15 minutes ago, my dadcomes into my den to tell me he's going out tonight...overnight... iask with who...i didnt have to..."my friend mary beth" (thats thelady). i loooooooooost it. once he left the room, i was bawling. itried to call both my sisters, neither were there. i called one of myfriends, she wasnt there. i called one of the women i babysit for, andhung up halfway through in fear of sounding stupid. once i called myother friend, she was there. she invited me to sleep over her housetonight. the woman i babysit for, mentioned above, when i sent her acopy of the email my dads friend sent to be forwarded to me, she saidthe lady was trying way too hard. heres the email:
I hope you liked the flower. It is one of my favorites, the tuberosa,and I chose it for you because your Dad declared your party "anabsolute triumph"....
(he said you thought of everything) and I wanted you to have 'the sweetsmell of success" to carry with you through the week to remind you ofthe terrific thing you did today, and the poise and maturity thathelped you carry it off.
Seriously, I not only admire your loving care and consideration ofchildren, I share it. I'm hoping that someday soon you'll feelcomfortable in meeting me and we can explore this as common ground forbeginning a friendship.
When you are ready, give me a chance...you might be pleasantly surprised....
mb
the flowers she references...on the day of my biiiiiiiig party that idbeen planning for months, she gave my dad flowers to give to me. ithrew 'em on the ground behind the house cuz i didnt want 'em. turnsout my dad found 'em and put 'em in a vase on his desk. to me, theylooked like those flowers that belong on a grave, so i thought shewanted me dead, or she wanted to kill me. teenage mind. i love mymom...and miss her so much. i have a framed drawing of her when she was10 in my den, right above my chinchilla's cage. i just celebrated her60th birthday on wednesday.
sorry for ranting.