juliew19673
Well-Known Member
My Nephew Ian, 17 was sent to "Survival Boot Camp" after causing much damage to home and neighbors. The A typical problems of too much leeway, too much $$, and not enough supervision. My Brother and his wife were so confused by his behaviour (they were not problematic as children) they weren't prepared for the outcome of giving a kid everything they desired.
My Brother and I were raised with rules and boundaries; not my Nephew;he was the first grandkid of our family and with alot more money than all of us had ever had. So they indulged him (we all did) and now are having to deal with the outcome.
Ian IS a good kid at heart, and now isin the right program (Catherine Freer Wildnerness Program - would recommend it if you are having similiar problems). Ian just spent 8 weeks snow camping in the Oregon Cascade mountain range during one of the worst winters o recordand made it through and is now in their Boarding School. He's not happy that he doesn't get to come home after his long ordeal but he needs long term help.
My question for all is now I can finally send a letter to him and what should be the "tone?". I'm so proud? I know how you feel? Been there? I never had kids as I was not about to raise a kid such as I was (also had similiar problems as he did just on a smaller scale,but wasalso sent away, to just family but it saved me from making really bad choices). So not sure why I'm so concerned about the letter other than I remember how confusing it can be at 17.
Hope (but then again, wish not) that some of you have dealt with this and have a suggestion/guidance.
My Brother and I were raised with rules and boundaries; not my Nephew;he was the first grandkid of our family and with alot more money than all of us had ever had. So they indulged him (we all did) and now are having to deal with the outcome.
Ian IS a good kid at heart, and now isin the right program (Catherine Freer Wildnerness Program - would recommend it if you are having similiar problems). Ian just spent 8 weeks snow camping in the Oregon Cascade mountain range during one of the worst winters o recordand made it through and is now in their Boarding School. He's not happy that he doesn't get to come home after his long ordeal but he needs long term help.
My question for all is now I can finally send a letter to him and what should be the "tone?". I'm so proud? I know how you feel? Been there? I never had kids as I was not about to raise a kid such as I was (also had similiar problems as he did just on a smaller scale,but wasalso sent away, to just family but it saved me from making really bad choices). So not sure why I'm so concerned about the letter other than I remember how confusing it can be at 17.
Hope (but then again, wish not) that some of you have dealt with this and have a suggestion/guidance.