So, I'm reading over on how to bond the two of them. Since Erlong's hormones chilled out, she's not aggressive toward Xiao Wu, but tries to be nice when they are near each other. However, Xiao Wu is a stubborn bunny butt and will only get along with Erlong if they're in the living room. The ONE ROOM that still smells like Shen and neither of them have laid claim to. I know part of Xiao Wu's stubborn behavior is from the fact that I am always behind this barrier with Erlong because of work. I do try to make time for her, and I talk to her EVERY chance I get, but she's not willing to deal with it. So, she begins to grunt at Erlong each time Erlong just tries to relax to be near Xiao Wu. I was reading some of the bonding threads on here, as well as the links you, JBun, commonly put with those threads. I'm attempting the gradual approach right now and also pending winter to go into full swing. Do you think making them use each others' litter box or be in each others' space for a little while might help with getting them used to the scent of the other? Like if I put Xiao Wu on my side of the barrier and have Erlong on the other side at the same time, you think it might help? I don't want to do that if it will only cause problems.