kirstin
Well-Known Member
I'm 6 weeks pregnant at 17 years old. The pregnancy was a mistake (obviously), and abortion is out of the question -- I would never resort to such a thing. My 20 y.o. boyfriend got me pregnant, and he's leaving for basic training in the Army in August. I'm due in late October, so he'll still be gone by the time I have the baby. My boyfriend and I are "unofficially engaged", meaning we are planning on getting married, but don't have the money to pay for marital expenses. That, and I'm a bit young... my parents are stressed enough, but they are supportive.
So here's the question... adoption or keep?
There are pros and cons to each that I've found. Emotionally, I want to keep the baby, but logically, I don't. It would be better for the baby to grow up in a home with a mother and father that can easily support them... but part of me believes that I need to take full and complete responsibility for the baby, meaning I should sacrafice going to college or living my life as a young adult. I'd probably finish high school online (and sadly only get a GED). What should I do? I've got quite a bit of time to think about whether to give up for adoption or keep, but many are asking, and I want to be able to prepare for whichever my decision may be. My boyfriend is leaning more towards adoption just because he feels horrible that I'd have to spend my days as a single mom (because he'll be gone so much for the Army, supporting me). I'm just not sure what to do. Help?
So here's the question... adoption or keep?
There are pros and cons to each that I've found. Emotionally, I want to keep the baby, but logically, I don't. It would be better for the baby to grow up in a home with a mother and father that can easily support them... but part of me believes that I need to take full and complete responsibility for the baby, meaning I should sacrafice going to college or living my life as a young adult. I'd probably finish high school online (and sadly only get a GED). What should I do? I've got quite a bit of time to think about whether to give up for adoption or keep, but many are asking, and I want to be able to prepare for whichever my decision may be. My boyfriend is leaning more towards adoption just because he feels horrible that I'd have to spend my days as a single mom (because he'll be gone so much for the Army, supporting me). I'm just not sure what to do. Help?