BunnyLove89
Well-Known Member
So I am 23 and I still live with my parents. I've gone through alot in my life, from living with a mentally ill brother, as well as a severely disabled brother (who passed away in 2005). Also, my dad is suffering from a basically terminal illness and my mom had open heart surgery last year. I have Bipolar, Anxiety, PTSD and OCD and require medication. My mentally ill brother has always been a skilled manipulator/liar/abuser/fill-in-the-blank and last year right after my mom's surgery he "borrowed" hundreds of dollars worth of items from me and my parents and kept some for himself, and sold the rest. We didn't hear from him for several months, and he only contacted my dad when he got arrested and needed bail money. My family has been broke for quite some time. My dad is on disability, my mom doesn't work, and I make $5 an hour. My dad has also been one to give in to my brother, no matter what our finances are like. He has said before that he would sacrifice the house and the rest of the family to get money to my brother. My dad only really interacts with me when my brother isn't around. I can be a few feet away from him telling my mom that I don't feel like he loves me or even cares about me and she'll say "he cares about you...he just has his priorities" and he won't correct her or I because he knows that it's true. He also went missing last summer and before he left he said he was going to kill himself and that his blood was on me and my mom's hands.
Lately living at home has gotten worse than usual. I don't even feel like I am an adult because of the way my home life is. On a regular basis I get reprimanded about my room being messy and my parents control my finances (I wanted another horse and had the money to afford it and they said that I can't get another animal while living at home, even though I would be boarding it elsewhere.) I am not allowed to drink on the property and my mom searches my room whenever she feels like it. I know I am still their "child" but it really does effect me being treated the same way I was treated when I was in Junior High and High School. And the fact that my dad will do whatever it takes to get money for my brother, but yet I'm going to have to apply for food stamps because we are so broke. I told my mom the other day that I was going to move out and it started a big fight. I can't afford an apartment (and I have 2 goats that live with me so an apartment wouldn't work) so really my only option would be to live with my boyfriend. He is an awesome guy and he would take me and all my animals in a heartbeat. I just don't want to have to deal with constant fights between me and my parents if I were to move in with my boyfriend (they don't approve of living together before marriage).
II just don't know what to do. I want to go into counseling to get some support and advice on everything I'm going through and have gone through, but we can't afford that either.
I need to figure something out though before I completely lose my mind...
Lately living at home has gotten worse than usual. I don't even feel like I am an adult because of the way my home life is. On a regular basis I get reprimanded about my room being messy and my parents control my finances (I wanted another horse and had the money to afford it and they said that I can't get another animal while living at home, even though I would be boarding it elsewhere.) I am not allowed to drink on the property and my mom searches my room whenever she feels like it. I know I am still their "child" but it really does effect me being treated the same way I was treated when I was in Junior High and High School. And the fact that my dad will do whatever it takes to get money for my brother, but yet I'm going to have to apply for food stamps because we are so broke. I told my mom the other day that I was going to move out and it started a big fight. I can't afford an apartment (and I have 2 goats that live with me so an apartment wouldn't work) so really my only option would be to live with my boyfriend. He is an awesome guy and he would take me and all my animals in a heartbeat. I just don't want to have to deal with constant fights between me and my parents if I were to move in with my boyfriend (they don't approve of living together before marriage).
II just don't know what to do. I want to go into counseling to get some support and advice on everything I'm going through and have gone through, but we can't afford that either.
I need to figure something out though before I completely lose my mind...