My boyfriend is jealous of my bunny (as well as my other pets).

give it a few weeks and as you grow stronger you will look back and roll your eyes. but right now, just get ahold of me if you need to. i remember how much i cried and didnt eat...and smoked too much even though he was a horrible person to me. *hugs*

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Thanks everyone. I'm sure I would be feeling much worse had I not found this forum. I apologize if I've come across as whiny at all. I am usually not an emotional person.

I'm feeling a bit thrown under the bus by my now ex. I know I shouldn't be surprised, but I am. He's been on facebook posting songs that make me look like a horrible person. This is one of them: http://www.elyrics.net/read/a/a-day-to-remember-lyrics/casablanca-sucked-anyway-lyrics.html

I don't know what I did wrong or what I did to him that makes him so angry. He was the one that chose to make the break permanent, after only 6 days. He still wants to be friends but how can I even try to be friends with someone who makes me feel like I am nothing...

Jen - put this into prospective. He is vindictive and controlling and this is his way of trying to hurt you. Ignore it and him. He is being incredibly childish. You are better than this and so, so worth so much more than him. Onward and upward. See if you can find a dog walking group. Not necessary to hang out with just young people, some of us older ones enjoy your company. As for being whiny, we all are on occasion, that is what friends are for to vent at. Hugs and nosebonks.

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Thanks everyone. I'm sure I would be feeling much worse had I not found this forum. I apologize if I've come across as whiny at all. I am usually not an emotional person.

I'm feeling a bit thrown under the bus by my now ex. I know I shouldn't be surprised, but I am. He's been on facebook posting songs that make me look like a horrible person. This is one of them: http://www.elyrics.net/read/a/a-day-to-remember-lyrics/casablanca-sucked-anyway-lyrics.html

I don't know what I did wrong or what I did to him that makes him so angry. He was the one that chose to make the break permanent, after only 6 days. He still wants to be friends but how can I even try to be friends with someone who makes me feel like I am nothing...

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Everyone has been through something like this. It's tough but an addict needs a scape goat. And this is the scape goat game. Friends? Nah, Just another form of control.

He's the nothing. Not you. He's the fool who walked away. Oh well. Didn't read the lyrics, just the title. That's a child's response to something he knows he did himself. Lost you. Shame on him.

Now it's a full break. Don't worry about what is being said. Really, your true friends will see through this spiteful game. Don't spend time explaining what he's doing. People will know.

I don't know if this is quoted right, but one door closes, but another always opens. That door is closed, and my advise is lock it and keep it locked, and go through that open door which is another chapter of your life.

And btw, I don't consider what you've posted as whining. Take care! It will get better.

K

Please don't let him bully you anymore. I highly recommend blocking him on FB and any "friend" that reports information either way. You are worth so much more than what value he places on you. He is not worth your time or emotions. I agree, lock that door with bolts and chains, never to be opened again. Now you can concentrate on making yourself happy and healthy as an individual, on your own. When love it right it will happen, but for now you need to take care of yourself.

You are really hurting and it is a good thing to reach out to friends. We are happy to support you, it's not whining when you are honestly hurting. :hug:

Sorry Jen didn't mean to imply that I actual thought you were whiny, because you sure aren't. Just wanted you to know that we have all been in a tough place and reaching out to friends is what friendship is all about. Hang in there.

I don't know what I did wrong or what I did to him that makes him so angry.

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No no no!! You did nothing wrong! I just read through this whole thing and was just about to tell you that starting on page 3, there was such a change in you for the better. There is no doubt that he saw that too and decided to pull out the big gun to regain control of you.

You did nothing wrong except try to regain some respect for you and for your animals. Never ever feel that you did anything wrong here. Everybody else has said it too but when people really care about each other, they give each other what they need to feel better, even if what that is is space.

If that one support group did not work out for you, look for another one, perhaps one less religious. If that doesn't work, just keep talking here.

I was just looking through my pictures from when my boyfriend and I were still together. These are my favorites:

This is when we first started dating:


The next 2 are from a year later:




This was a few days before the break:

You are so beautiful! He isn't as cute as you are either. You are his better in every way. I suggest you burn the old photos etc. to put the past behind you.

EEK! I love your new haircut! And that looks like a real smile all of a sudden. :wink

Been reading through. Lots of good people on here. Feel free to facebook me as well. Kaley Maben. Same avatar as my shi shi avatar on here. Extrovert extraordinaire. Not the best listener (working on it) but love to laugh WITH others. Not AT others. Unless that other is my husbands dog Sam. He's always good for a laugh.

Here for you honey

I'm really late here...
but you should really think twice about this guy.

The way I see it, you either love me AND my rabbits or you love neither and you can keep it moving!

There is a very strict pack order in my house, it goes as follows.

My children
My rabbits
My husband

And they all know this...

Good luck!

I once had a bf that didn't really like my animals and was also highly allergic to them! I met my current bf 3 years ago and he adores my animals I let him know in the beginning, "love me, Love my pets!" He has been so great even helped me with my ailing dog who had cancer before christmas, and stayed right with My dog Hunter and I in the room when I decided to make the toughest decision in my entire life and end his pain. I told him he could wait outside but he decided to stay with me and Hunter. He loves all of my 6 bunnies and comes with me everytime they need to go to the vet for support. I'm not trying to tell you what to do, but I found that I needed to get out of a relationship because my SO did not like animals. My animals come first and I'm lucky that I found someone as loving as the bf I am with now. I really think that if the person you are dating really does love you with all there being and all there heart they will also love your animals as well. Good luck with your endeavors! Hope eveything works out for the better!!

Edit: Oh didn't know that you broke up! Sorry!!

Just have to say that even though it hurts, you are better off. Every time I hear someone talk about change, I just have to laugh. We are who we are and no one really changes--they may hide their nature, but they don't change. Hang in there. It took me awhile to find someone that would put up with me, but I did 36 years ago this August and we're still going strong. Just a little hint--if he wasn't an ass he wouldn't be posting things that are mean. A petty person would do things like that. Good luck.

I've been feeling pretty good today! Woke up at 4 again which was annoying.
But I got a good start on cleaning the house for when my parents get back. It needed it. Bad. I blame Weston. How can I possibly have time to keep the house clean when I have such an adorable bunny to play with?
For awhile when I was cleaning I was hearing my ex in the back of my mind, especially things he's said lately. Mainly 2 lines from a song he posted on facebook about how he's feeling "Look at everything. Look at all you've become...nothing more than a memory" and "you make me sick with every move you make. when will you find your place in this world? because it will never be beside me again". Just kinda sucks knowing that's how he feels about me, the person he "loves".
I've also been trying to park in the middle of the driveway because he hates when I do that and anytime I would forget, he would comment and have me come outside and look at my parking job. Heaven forbid he have to park in the street, like he did for over a year.
It's just hard to undo habits...
Other than that, my mood has been pretty good. Weston has been helping.
Oh, I did have a somewhat comical start to my morning. I wandered into the kitchen still trying to wake up and I pulled out the garbage can to throw something away and there was a mouse hopping around in it! I cautiously carried the trash out to the front yard while the mouse was jumping up almost touching my hand each time. Just as I was about to let it go, it registered that it looked exactly like one of my mice, Kassadee. So I ran inside and checked to make sure she hadn't escaped then ran back out to release the mouse. Afterwards I realized how stupid I must have looked running back and forth in my pjs (boxers and a baggy t-shirt). I was pretty awake after that!

Cleanings therapitical lol. I getupset and i lock myself in bathroom or kitchen and stsrt scrubbing teeny specs that i know wpnt come off haha. Your so pretty
I listened to all over you and some hinder lol..the vorny songs made me feel better. Find some good moving on songs and youll find yourself smiling!

Howd a mouse get under the trash bag? Lol.

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Cleanings therapitical lol. I getupset and i lock myself in bathroom or kitchen and stsrt scrubbing teeny specs that i know wpnt come off haha. Your so pretty
I listened to all over you and some hinder lol..the vorny songs made me feel better. Find some good moving on songs and youll find yourself smiling!

Howd a mouse get under the trash bag? Lol.

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I hate cleaning lol.
Yeah, i've been listening to alot of music lately. It helps.
As for the mouse, I hadn't put a new garbage bag in yet.

I got 8 hours of sleep last night! :yahoo: I had my phone by my head and I even slept through 16 texts from my brother, and a phone call/voicemail from him.

Jen, it sounds like you may be feeling a little better about things since you've been sleeping better the past couple nights! What do you think? I'm sorry you're sad he broke up with you (very understandable!!), but I'm glad he did because you really need to be free of him. The things you said he does raised a ton of red flags, but for some reason to me, the thing about him friending all of your Facebook friends and switching to your AA group was one huge, crimson red, enthusiastically waving flag!

Cleaning always helps me! When my husband see's me with my red bandanna on, my sweats and a tank he KNOWS i mean business LOL! So glad to hear that you left him! Sooo happy for you

Scrubbing is therapeutic, particularly to NIN or "man hating music" as my husband calls some of my harder tunes by women (think Tori Amos). I turn it up and scrub out all my frustrations. He gives me a wide berth.

Congratulations on getting good sleep! It will help you heal and help your mood. You really are so much better off. :hug: