Ok, thanks guys
I've only had him since late april, so he doesn't exactly 100% trust me yet, so I haven't really tried to get him used to anything he won't like - like being held... only picked him up twice when he got into trouble and had to be moved.
But, now that he is getting used to me, I will try to work on him. I think the first clip we will end up letting the vet do, he doesn't need it quite yet and he's going in for a neuter checkup/surgery anyway. But, in the meantime I will try to get him less stressy about being handled. He loves being petted, so maybe if boyfriend holds him and I pet him he'll calm down.
He doesn't bite, thankfully - he does claw me though lol last time I picked him up to put him to bed since he wouldn't go himself, I got a nice criss-cross of scratches along my chest, through my shirt, think I will need to borrow some of the boyfriends thicker ones!