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MsBinky

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Hi,

I just wanted to apologize for my rudeness. A few peoplehave asked for updates and all...I haven't updated on the buns' conditions etc. because things have just been awful here.I pop in because I need to keep busy and keep myself from thinking too much but I don't have much energy to post at all.

We had a very very very serious family emergency. I spent most of last week at my parents' house, helping to deal with things. All I will say for now is it revolves around my younger sister, the family has been threatened, lots and lots of cops/detectives/social workers/etc. etc. My sister has been surrendered to child protection services for her own safety right now so it's a very difficult situation at this point. We are trying to work it so that no family member is alone at home or anywhere near the home and I think I will be taking my younger brother after school due to circumstances.

So if you have any prayers, hugs, good vibes, etc. that you can spare, they'd be very much appreciated.
 
:pray:I'm so, so sorry to hear that things are...well...not okay right now. Please know that you and yours will be in my thoughts and prayers.

If you need anything at all, feel free to PM me. I can always listen if nothing else.

We're all here for you and hope that everything gets resolved as quickly as possible and that everything and everyone is okay.

Take care of yourself and talk as much or as little as you need to...:grouphug.
 
I am always sorry to hear about such strife in families..more so when I know the people it happens to. Not that I claim to know you very well but you seem like a good sort. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and hope the situtation improves for all of you. You have my best wishes for a swift resolution...
 
Aw, I'm so sorry to hear you're having such a tough time, I'd been wonderingwhereyou were...you've been through a lot already as it is :(

I hope it all gets sorted soon, in the meantime you will be in my thoughts :hug:and I'm sure nobody thinks you're being rude, stuff like family comes way before this place and we all know it!

Jen xx
 
Thank you everyone. It's really really hard these days, so many emotions to deal with. The family has been threatened and my sister called in a panick yesterday, total anxiety attack. My mother is now afraid to go out alone. This just sucks... Taking it one day at a time. I myself am having nightmares like no tomorrow all of a sudden. :?And Bo, nope Mario never made it home... You can imagine how frustrating this whole thing is. My family and I soooooo wish he were here right now. I'd have someone to bury myself into. I still haven't just sat and cried. I'm scared to let it out yet because I am trying to be there for everyone else. Waaaaaaaaay tired!
 
You can only be there for others if you look after yourself, which means allowing yourself what you need. If you need to cry, allow yourself too, there's no shame in it and often, afterwards, it can really help. You won't be any use to anyone if you bottle everything up and then have a breakdown or something.

If your sister is suffering panic attacks maybe suggest to her to carry a safe object with her wherever she goes (maybe a toy or cuddly toy, or stone, anything that makes her feel safe). If she calls with a panic attack again, the best way to help her is to calm her breathing down and then address the panic itself, when her breathing is settled. To calm her breathing count for her, breathing in for 4, hold for 2 and out for 5, counting relatively slowly. I had paramedics do that for me and it really helps. With time, hopefully she will learn to control the attacks with breathing, but that will probably only come when the worst is past and she feels safer.

As for your nightmares, try talking about them, or writing them down, to get them out of your head. It's your subconscious's way of releasing what's going on, so getting it out is important.

You know where I am.

x
 
Thank you Flashy :hug:I will forward some of the info you gave me to my parents.

Right now it's a waiting game. Confusion and doubt reigns so I will just sit back and watch and wait til the truth comes out. This is just too insane:craziness
 
I'm sorry that you and your family are going through such a horrible ordeal. You, certainly, don't deserve this... Hang on and try to be strong, it's the only way to get through this and try to remember that, no matter how hard life is right now for all of you, it will eventually pass. I will be thinking of you.

My cordial wishes for a positive, quick resolution of your troubles,

Marietta
 
Thank you girls :rose: :hug2:

You know Marietta, I am soooooooo sooooooooooo longing for my cute traditional greek house on an island far away from here, with some nice greek food by the sea. Lol! I told Mario that when he gets back I am taking his place in Greece but will go to his sister's in Syros (?). :tongue
 
Sophie, I wish you with all my heart that time flies quickly and you get your place in your Greek paradise island the way you want it, away from all this hurdle you're going through.

By the way, you would like Syros, it's the capital of the Cyclades islands, it's a medium sized island, very beautiful and very cultural. Syros has a nice museum, art galleries, ...a casino (!), cosy hotels, lots of historical buildings and classic architecture mansions of the 19th and early 20th century, an impressive, large central square and lots of small, picturesque shops that mainly sell gold and silver jewelry and pastry shops loaded with handmade local sweets. It used to be a very wealthy islands (a fact that shows till today), since quite a lot of shipowners were based in Syros up to the thirties and the local industry and shipbuilding yard (which still exists and runs) were very prominent. I've spent a lot of weekends at Syros for 4-5 years in a row and I know, first-hand, that it's a delightful place to be. Plus it's only a 3-hour steaming time from Piraeus.

Marietta
 
I'm just bumping this thread to check on you and see how you're doing....and let you know I'm thinking of you.

I hope you're feeling better - I remember reading in your blog a few days ago that you weren't feeling well....

Peg
 
Thank you Peg. :hug2:Yeah I had the stomach flu so I was feelingpretty yucky. I am better today though.

However, today, I got into it with my mother. My parents are taking my sister home for the day and my mother wanted me there. Um... No thank you. I guess she hasn't understood that i am upset with all of my sister's lies and that I want to make sure that she's not doing her 30days at the centre just to run back off with the bf in the end. Anywho, I toldher I just need time to relax and cool off, and that I wasnt feeling very well but that I'd be around soon and she got mad. Ah well. I wish they'd want me there as much when it's just a regular family gathering, and not just when things are bad....

Dreaming of my happy place on an island in Greece... Happy thoughts, happy thoughts. Oh and Marietta, I absolutely love Syros buttttt the sister-in-law got there before us and I would prefer going someplace further from his family :tongue
 
I guess... First time in my life I actually said no to someone. Now I feel guilty and self-centered and questionning if me being there might help. But then again, I just don't feel like putting my energy into this.

I made life choices to avoid ending up like my sister. I chose bfs that would be a positive influence, not a bad one. She made her decisions, she's old enough to decide whether it's what she wants or not. She wants to take drugs, fine. I really don't have to sit around and watch her laugh and mock us for being so "uptight". And I really don't want to sit around and listen to her talking about a guy who clearly doesn't respect and love her.

Call me insensitive, fine. But I won't be a hypocrite and pretend all is well. :?
 
It's good to say no to people. You don't need to feel guilty for it because you have clearly done a lot for them, and now you need to do something for yourself. Yes, that is selfish, but not in a bad way, it's selfish in a good way because you need to look after yourself because, really, only you can do that. Your family know you are there for them, but it's important to look after yourself too.

I think you did the right thing, and I also think deep down you do too, even if you are dealing with guilt, etc.
 

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