Males and females do many things the same. The courting, the marking, digging, spraying and territorial dominance.
You can tell a male though by 6 months, especially a dwarf breed. There testicles drop. If you flip your bunny to his back, you can see the sacs on either side.
Also, my rabbit savvy vet said you can wait until at least a year to have a female spayed. Just watch her behaviour. Males and females can turn that courting into charges and biting. And definitely contact a Rabbit Savvy Vet for your bunny. Spaying for a female is very invasive, so you need someone who knows.
Let us know if you found a Vet. Also would love to see pics of Pancake. Maybe even help estimate what breed your bunny is.